3. Be Prepared With Good Stories
Not having anything to say to a new woman you started a conversation with might be the toughest thing about meeting new women.
An awkward pause in the conversation can mean DEATH for the interaction. And most shy guys will let an opportunity to meet a girl pass them by because of the excuse “I don’t know what to talk to her about.”
But the dirty little secret of approaching women is that you don’t NEED much to talk about with them. If you have just a few interesting stories to tell, you’re good. The rest of the time, you can just ask her questions and let her talk about herself.
The stories don’t even have to be about you! They can be about a friend of yours, or about a news story you saw. It doesn’t matter, as long as you have some fun and entertaining stuff you know you can talk about with a girl when there is a lull in the conversation.
This will help you avoid any awkwardness you may feel when approaching a woman.
4. Don’t Think About It – Just Do It!
If given enough time to think about it, a shy guy will talk himself out of approaching a girl. The trick is to act before your brain has time to rationalize an excuse not to approach.
The word “Hi!” should be out of your mouth within 3 seconds.
Just say it. “Hi”. Act then and there.
She’ll probably say “Hi” back, and when she does, use your conversation starter. There you go, you’re in a conversation!
Shyness is caused by allowing your brain to visualize all the bad outcomes of an interaction with a girl. Don’t give it the chance! Pull a Nike, and just do it.
5. Utilize Online Dating
Finally, shy guys should be using the internet to help them meet women. This actually serves two purposes…
First off, it helps shy guys meet women without actually having to talk to them at first, so there is enough time to build up some trust and comfort there. By the time the first date rolls around, most of the hard work has been done!
Secondly, going online can give you OPTIONS. Typically, shy guys don’t have a lot of women available to them, so they place a great deal of importance on each girl they like.
But if you have 5-10 women emailing you, all wanting to meet up, this will give you an ABUNDANCE mentality, and make it easier to approach women in real life because you know if it doesn’t work out, you still have lots of other girls wanting to meet you.
This is a HUGE psychological benefit!
Remember, you LEARNED to be shy, over time. You worked towards being that way over time, and you DO have control over it. You just need to unlearn your shyness.
And with some work, your shyness will be vanish!