One of the mistakes many people make when trying to get their ex back is to say I’m sorry a thousand times. There is nothing wrong with a good apology in many cases. But saying I’m sorry over and over can actually cause your ex to move further away from you.
Instead of apologizing repeatedly, there are better things to do to get your ex back. First, don’t apologize if you did nothing wrong. If you ex left because they drifted apart from you, apologizing would make you sound pathetic.
Of course, if you did something wrong that needs an apology, that’s a great place to start. You have to understand what you did wrong and be ready to apologize, just don’t start with an apology – yet.
Before you say I’m sorry, do these two things first. Let’s say you cheated on your ex. You sure did make a big mistake. Betrayal and broken trust are filling your ex’s heart.
Instead of rushing in and saying I’m sorry, start by admitting what you did wrong. Your ex needs to know that you understand you did wrong. So own up to it. Do not justify or try to explain yourself.
Next, get them to vent. Before you ever say I’m sorry, get your ex to tell you how they feel about what you did. Let them get their bad feelings off their chest. If they want to yell at you or cry or attack you, you take it. You don’t argue or defend yourself. You just let them vent. Venting releases their negative feelings some.
Take both of those steps first and you are way ahead of the ball game. After you admitted you did wrong and heard their feelings about it, they can hear you. Now your apology can be heard and accepted.
So before you rush in with a thousand apologies, or one, try these two steps. If your ex deserves an apology, make it a powerful one, one that you wont have to repeat endlessly hoping for forgiveness. You and your ex will end up getting a lot closer. There are more steps to this, but these can get your ex to consider taking you back within hours instead of weeks or months.