If your girlfriend broke up with you, like many guys you probably feel like you made a mistake and want her back. You’d like to show her that you’ve learned how to love and appreciate her if you only could get a second chance.
So how do you do it? How to do it depends on what happened. While every situation is different, there are a few main reasons for breaking up. Youve got to figure out what happened so you know how to approach her.
There are two main reasons for breaking up that we’ll look at here. The first is that you wronged your girlfriend in some way. Perhaps you cheated on her or were too controlling and she got fed up.
A second big reason relationships end is because of relationship drift. She just isn’t that into you anymore. Maybe she got bored or started to feel unappreciated and unloved. She lost interest in you as a lover over time.
So what do you do to get her back? Well, if you wronged your girl, if lets say you cheated on her and she gave you the boot, then you need to regain her trust and repair the damage that you caused. So the way to do this is with a Smart Apology. Not just any apology, but a deep, powerful apology that can start to repair the damage you caused in minutes.
A smart apology has six or seven steps to it. You don’t even apologize til after the 3rd or 4th step. First off, you own up to what you did that hurt her. Then you let her get things off her chest, you let her talk and yell and vent as she sees fit to let her hurt feelings get released. In both of these steps, you don’t argue or justify or explain yourself. You don’t say “it didn’t mean anything.”
Now, if you can take just these two steps before you actually apologize, you are doing great. Saying you’re sorry til you’re blue in the face doesn’t work. Using the Emotional Logic of a smart apology can truly impact your girlfriend’s feelings for you.
What if she left because she isn’t into you anymore? Relationship drift? Then you need to follow a different approach, as an apology isn’t the answer. You can find out more about this in a free course from the link below. Getting your ex back involves a lot of relationship intelligence, but this is a good way to start the process.